After years of hard and dedicated service to his Company, Smith was being appointed at an elegant reception as the new Director. It was a small function where his wife Janie, a Home Executive and some of the wives of the other persons in top management were also present.
In an adjacent room, the wife of the CEO of the Company, asked Janie a very odd and unusual question; “Does your husband make you happy?”
Smith, who at that moment was not at her side, but was sufficiently near to hear the question, paid attention to the conversation, sitting up slightly, feeling secure, even filling his chest lightly in pride and hope,that she would definitely not publicly lower or degrade her husband, would answer affirmatively, since she had always been there for him during their marriage and generally in life. Nevertheless, to both his and the others’ surprise, she replied simply; “No, no, he doesn’t make me happy…”
The room became uncomfortably silent, as if everyone was listening to the spouse’s response. There was a sudden coldness in the air. Smith was petrified. A frown appeared on his face. He couldn’t believe what his wife was saying, especially at such an important occasion for him. To the amazement of her husband and of everyone!
Janie sat up firmly and explained in a modest but stern tone to those who were present; “No, he doesn’t make me happy… I AM HAPPY by my own choice. The fact that I am happy or not doesn’t depend on him but on me. Both of us have the intellect and discretion to reason, interpret and decide. And I am the person upon whom my happiness depends. I make the choice to be happy in each situation and in each moment of my life with Smith. If my happiness were to depend on other people, on other things or circumstances on the face of this earth, I would be in serious trouble! Over my life I have learned a couple of things: I decide to be happy and the rest is a matter of ‘experiences or circumstances’ like helping, understanding, accepting, listening, consoling and with my spouse, I have lived and practiced this many times. True happiness lies in being content”.
Relieved and reassured, a smile was clearly noticed on Smith’s face. Happiness will always be found in contentment, forgiveness and in loving ourselves and others. To truly love is difficult, it is to forgive unconditionally, to live, to take the “experiences or circumstances” as they are, facing them together and being happy with conviction.
There are those who say I cannot be happy :
- Because I am sick.
- Because I have no money.
- Because it is too cold.
- Because they insulted me.
- Because someone stopped loving me.
- Because someone didn’t appreciate me.
But what they don’t know is that they can be happy even though sick, whether it is too hot, whether they have the money or not, whether someone has insulted them, or someone didn’t love or hasn’t valued them.
Moral: Being Happy, depends on us! It Depends on Me. I fall. I rise. I make mistakes. I live. I learn. I have been hurt but I am alive. I am human. I am not perfect but I am Thankful for everything around me.
Being Happy is an attitude about life & each one of us must decide about it !!