Zona was 8 years old. As a kid, she was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of her lake house. So, it came to no surprise for her dad to find her at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. Her little eight-year-old brain didn’t realize the tree could break or she could get hurt. She just thought it was fun to be up so high.
Her older cousin, Tammy,was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy’s mother also noticed them at the exact time Zona’s dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. Zona could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. Her father yelled, “Zona, Hold on tightly.” So she did. The next thing she knew, she heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.
Zona scampered down the tree to safety. Her dad later told her why Tammy fell and she did not. Apparently, when Tammy’s mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, “Tammy, don’t fall!” And Tammy did fall. Zona’s dad then explained to her that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image.
In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, Zona’s eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of her hanging on tightly.
This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can’t visualize not doing something.
The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. If our parents can set a lifetime of programing with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue.
Toxic phrase: “If I complete this project successfully, I might get a better appraisal”
Likely result: Can perform good/ average/ poor
Better language: “My successful completion of this project will get me a better appraisal.”
Toxic phrase: “You shouldn’t drink too much tea/coffee.”
Likely result: Drinks more tea/ coffee.
Better language: “I read too much caffeine makes you unhealthy.”
Moral: Words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success. Let’s learn proper “self-talk.” Make all your internal dialogue positive and encourage yourself to win.
No level of obstacle can prevail in crippling a mind that’s continuously fed with positive self-talk. Consistent positive self-talk is unquestionably one of the greatest gifts to one’s subconscious mind.